Overview

So, what is the best way to support the menopausal woman in your life while also caring for yourself?

Up to this point we have talked almost exclusively about her and what she is experiencing. We’ve talked about her physical, mental, emotional and spiritual pain. 

We’ve defined both perimenopause and menopause. We’ve talked about the symptoms of perimenopause and menopause. We’ve even answered a few of the top most common questions.

Next we’ll talk about you, the man in her life, and what you can do, for yourself and her, to survive and thrive during this season of life, hopefully without getting divorced, which we will discuss in Part Three of this course.

Before we dive right in though, let’s me share an overview of what comes next.

 At this point in the conversation it’s important for you to recognize that whatever has come before in your relationship and life was necessary to get you to this point of seeking answers, seeking understanding, and living as a more present and alive version of yourself.

Also recognize that what came before in your relationship and life wasn’t fully working and even if it was, she’s going through changes and not acting like the same person now and those changes may be freaking you out. So doing more of the same isn’t going to produce a better result moving forward.

Odds are you weren’t really happy with your relationship, your life, or yourself. I’m not saying it’s been all bad, but be honest, hasn’t there been at least more than a few things you’ve wanted to be different?

Maybe you’ve wanted to feel more love, more affection, more appreciation, and more connection. Maybe you’ve wanted to feel more comfortable in your own skin, more calm, more confident, more grounded, more safe, more fulfilled.

Maybe as you’ve held on tighter and tried harder to have a problem free life, everything seems to have gotten worse.

Maybe you’ve blamed other people and circumstances for this. Maybe because you’ve tried so hard and wanted everything to work so much, you feel like no one else cares about your happiness.

Maybe you’ve even taken on the role of victim in your own life story. Maybe it feels like everything someone says or does is a personal judgement or attack on you. Maybe you feel like life is happening to you, instead of for you.

What if that’s not true? What if everyone else is thinking the same thing? What if everyone else is doing the best they can while also trying to get their own needs met? 

What if they are all trying really hard to have a problem-free life, to feel more loved, more affection, more appreciation, and more connection. 

What if they don’t feel comfortable in their own skin, calm, confident, safe, and fulfilled. 

What if they don’t feel like anyone cares about their happiness? 

How would that make them show up in their live’s and what would your experience of them be while they felt this way?

In Part Two of this course, I want to show you that you are in fact already okay. That you have gifts to offer her during this season of life and beyond. That there is less for you to do, not more. That you can detach your sense of well-being from her moods, give her space, and look at her lovingly with high positive regard.

You’ll learn that you can reduce your pain by recognizing and relating to her pain. You can stop taking things personally, and create a safe space for her to open up and connect with you.

You can also set boundaries, get to know yourself deeply, and take ownership of your life by avoiding victim thinking and practicing self-care.

You can create a life for yourself that is worth sharing with her and other people and most importantly you can do all of this while increasing your sense of self, self-trust, self-reliance, self-respect, self-care, self-love, self-esteem, and supporting her through menopause.

You can do all of this while growing into a 2.0 version of yourself and leading you both into a 2.0 version of your relationship.

You won’t need her to do anything or agree to anything or “work on herself”. In fact, you won’t NEED anyone to do anything because you will learn to rely on yourself and supply for your own needs. 

You will learn to take ownership of yourself, your thoughts, your feelings, and your decisions. You will learn to lead yourself first and others by example.

You will come to understand that you are already okay, in every moment, regardless of what is going around you or what mood she is in. You lack nothing. You are whole.

Let’s dive in.

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