The Men I Coach

Like many of the men I coach, you are a highly motivated, over achiever who earns praises, awards, and promotions at work, but at home you feel like a little boy trying very hard to not upset momma, because “if momma ain’t happy, nobody’s happy”. Essentially you feel like a hero at work and a zero at home.

You are afraid of making mistakes, being seen as bad, and you are anxious, fearful, and frustrated as hell.

You believe that if you do everything right, don’t make any mistakes, and make everyone else happy, you will have a problem-free life, but that’s not happening and now you are exhausted mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritual and you just don’t know how to fix it.

You do everything you think you are “supposed to do”, but what you expect to happen doesn’t, which leaves you feeling confused, frustrated and resentful that others are not doing their part and don’t seem interested in helping you.

You feel like an ATM, maintenance man, Uber driver and security guard in your marriage.

You mistakenly believe that your sole value as a man is to earn money, mow the lawn, drive kids to activities, and stand guard against potential threats and the form and function of your life leaves you feeling undesired, unwanted, unappreciated, dismissed, disregarded, and disrespected.

Most of all, you feel alone and unloved all while desperately wanting more connection and intimacy with your wife. You don’t know how to fix it, but you do know that feeling alone WITH someone sucks!

You have worked very hard to get a job, a nice car, a big house, a pretty wife, a couple of kids, a cute dog, and a bank account, only to now risk losing everything in divorce.

You work all the time, have no friends, no hobbies, and depend on your wife to be your best friend, lover, and sole source of happiness.

I know because I lead men just like you and me to a better version 2.0 of marriage and life every day in my online men’s community and offline men’s groups. I know because you and I are versions of each other. I was where you are now back in 2018 and like you I thought the same things, felt the same things and tried to do the same things to save my marriage and be happy in life.

You feel lonely right now, but you are not alone.

The story you are living is more common than you realize, there is a pattern to it, and everything starts to make sense when we learn how to take a step back, challenge what we think we know and be open to looking at yourself and your life from a fresh perspective.

Many of the men I coach today have been in that same place too and I promise you, you are NOT stuck this way, this moment does NOT last forever and while I know it feels like no one cares about you right now, I care about you because I know that what you want for yourself and your life is reasonable and good and worth working for, it’s just that there are some things you don’t know that are getting in the way of having the life you really want instead of the life you’ve been enduring. This isn’t happening to you, it’s happening for you. This moment is a wake up call.

Do you really want the next 20 years to be like the last 20 years?

You were born with joy. You were born happy and you can be happy again. You can reconnect with your playful masculine self, have good friends, enjoy fulfilling hobbies, and have a healthy relationship with a woman who wants to be with you, earn what you want to earn, and live in the world as a calm, confident, and grounded man.

Take The Next Step…

Stop suffering! Learn how to fix your unhappy marriage. Become the man you enjoy being in your life.

If any part of what I’ve said resonates with you or you would like to talk about improving your confidence, reconnecting with your masculinity, dealing with marital separation or divorce, feeling worthy or not enough, then let’s talk.

You are not required to join a men’s community or hire a private men’s coach.

You just have to take the next step of starting a conversation with a man who understands you, your situation, and who cares about you.

Let’s talk about fixing your unhappy marriage and enjoying your life.