Hot flashes can occur suddenly, which can lead to anxiety or feelings of claustrophobia. A feeling of heat can rise up underneath the skin, which may have nothing to do with the temperature of the room. The severity and duration of these events vary and she will eventually learn to ride out these moments with some degree of humor. However, don’t take her good humor as a sign that you can touch her. She’s still burning up, she’s just learning to laugh instead of cry.