Overcome Nice Guy People Pleasing
“No More Mr. Nice Guy” Story 1 of 25
Ever felt like you're constantly trying to please others at the expense of your own happiness?
In this deeply personal and transformative video, I share my journey of fathering my inner child, and how it revolutionized my relationship with myself and those around me. If you've ever felt lost, unsure, or like you're constantly turning yourself inside out for approval, this video is for you.
Fathering My Inner Child: A Journey of Healing
So there I was, four years old, standing on the porch with a suitcase. Tears streamed down my face, and I was crying, just blubbering, pleading, "I'm sorry, Mama. I'll be good. Let me in." I promised to be good, to do whatever she wanted, anything to be let back inside. The porch felt like a terrifying, foreign land, and I was a lost little boy, unsure of where to go or what to do.
Hey, brother. Thanks for being here. Today, I want to share a deeply personal story about my childhood and how it led me to the transformative journey of fathering my inner child. This journey has reshaped my relationship with myself and helped me find peace and acceptance.
It all started during a difficult time in my life, a period marked by separation and the looming possibility of divorce. In the midst of this turmoil, I found solace in the book No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. This book felt like it was written just for me. It was as if the author was peeking into my soul, revealing my deepest fears and insecurities.
This book became my constant companion, traveling with me to Bali, Rio, Vancouver, and many other places. I had it in every format—print, Kindle, Audible. I scribbled in the margins, dog-eared pages, and spilled coffee on it. It was more than a book; it was a guide, a mentor, and a friend.
One sunny afternoon, I was sitting in my backyard in Austin, Texas, reading and jotting down notes. Suddenly, a memory resurfaced, vivid and raw. I was four years old again, standing on that porch. My mother had reached her breaking point, and in a fit of frustration, she decided to send me to my biological father. She packed my clothes into a suitcase, put me outside, and shut the door.
Through the screen door, I could see the world beyond the porch, vast and intimidating. I was terrified. I had no idea what to do or where to go. All I could do was cry and beg, "Please, Mama, let me in. I'll be good. I'll do whatever you want."
This memory haunted me throughout my life, surfacing at unexpected moments like a song that pops into your head for no reason. I never knew what to do with it, so I would push it aside. But this time, as I was reading and journaling, I decided to face it. I wrote down the memory in detail, letting the words flow onto the page.
As I wrote, I realized something profound. The four-year-old me, begging for acceptance and love, was still inside me, seeking approval, trying to please others to feel safe. The book had opened my eyes to this pattern, and now I saw it clearly in my own life.
A few days later, I came across an article about fathering your inner child. It suggested revisiting those painful memories and offering the love and support that were missing at the time. The idea resonated with me. I decided to rewrite that childhood scene.
I imagined myself as the grown man I am today, walking up to the porch where my four-year-old self stood crying. I knelt down, looked into his eyes, and said, "It's okay. I'm here. I love you. I'll take care of you. You're safe with me." I took his hand and led him away from that porch, away from the fear and uncertainty.
This exercise was transformative. It allowed me to reclaim that part of myself, to father my inner child. Now, whenever I feel scared or unsure, I remind myself that I am here, that I am safe, and that I am loved.
Schedule a call with me. Let's explore these memories together and find a way to heal. Your inner child deserves love and acceptance, and so do you.
An Invitation To Talk
This video isn't just about sharing my story; it's an invitation for you to embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing. If this story resonates with you, if you have memories that haunt you or feelings of insecurity that you can't shake, let's talk.
Schedule a one-on-one phone call with me to discuss your experiences, beliefs, and the steps you can take towards living a life where you feel whole, healthy, and happy.
Recommended Reading
I also highly recommend reading 'No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover.
As you read, take note of what stands out to you.
What resonates? What feels relevant in your own life?
Once you've reflected on these insights, schedule a free private coaching call with me to discuss your notes and explore what changes you want to see in your life.
This video is part of a series of 25 untold 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' stories that could have easily been included in Dr. Glover's book.
These are stories from my own life and childhood, shared to help men understand the significant impact of childhood events in the making of a "nice guy"—a role I played until I read 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' and began my recovery journey.
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The course includes private one-on-one coaching calls to help you understand the key concepts covered in the book, along with other important related concepts NOT covered in the No More Mr. Nice Guy book.
Until we talk again, be kind to yourself.
Much love, brother,
Charlie McKeever
Your Happy Man Coach
HappyManCoaching.com
"The very best thing you can do for the whole world is to make the most of yourself." – Wallace D. Wattles, 1903
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